DEAR MAN for Desires
We all have them. Our secret sexual desires that we keep hidden away, scared to share in case our partner doesn't find them desirable (or even worse, weird). But what happens when you do finally summon up the courage to tell your partner about that thing you've always wanted to try? It can be daunting - but it doesn't have to be.
Using sex to soothe
There’s no doubt that sex is a powerful thing. It can make us feel happy, fulfilled, and loved. Other times sex can be a way to connect, communicate, or care. Sometimes, people turn to sex as a way to soothe their emotions—especially when they’re feeling stressed, anxious, or grieving.
The truth about anxiety and desire
We all know that feeling. That pesky little voice in our head that tells us we're not good enough, smart enough, or sexy enough. It's the voice of anxiety, and for a lot of us, it can be debilitating. Anxiety can make it difficult to focus on anything else but our own perceived flaws.
What makes someone have responsive desire?
Does your partner know what turns you on or turns you off? Do you know for yourself? It can be tough to figure out what’s in our erotic template, especially when life stress gets in the way of accessing our emotions and sexual self.
Responsive or spontaneous desire?
Desire can feel confusing and complicated, especially when it seems like it's coming from nowhere. Often, sex and couples therapists see couples who have differences in their desire or libido. However, what is seen as low libido can sometimes be primarily a difference in how that person processes desire and arousal.