Infidelity, cheating, breaking agreements, affairs, betrayal
There are many ways to label this moment in a relationship. From a non-judgemental approach, we work with individuals and relationships to help understand and heal.
We work from a non-judgmental approach of working with you to understand your relationship, help tease apart the dynamics, work on forgiveness and repair, and then work to change necessary dynamics in your relationship.
Working on infidelity in therapy can be hard, but it is important work when you are striving for healing and understanding.
In some cases, it’s best to do individual therapy instead of couples therapy. During our intake, we’ll discuss options for therapy including individual, relationship and group therapy.
At Rouse, we strive to offer you the care you deserve. If we feel we are not a good fit for you we will gladly offer referrals to trusted colleagues.
What should we expect in couples therapy for infidelity?
Your provider will meet with the partners in the relationship first, and then each partner separately, as part of the assessment process. After 3-5 sessions, if not sooner, your provider will have an understanding of where to guide you in your healing process.
Through guided communication exercises, you’ll learn how to fully communicate with your partner(s). You’ll work together to understand your core vulnerabilities and insecurities. We’ll examine the “why’s” behind the affair to not judge or shame, but to understand the dynamics. Then we work on apologies and forgiveness, whatever that may mean to the relationship.
What model of couples therapy do you use?
While our providers continuously go through trainings of couples therapy practices, we are largely focused in the Developmental Model, Gottman Method and attachment styles.
Are there risks?
While there are a lot of potential rewards to be gained in therapy, there are of course some risks. As licensed and pre-licensed therapists it is our aim to help you heal from trauma and not compound your traumatic experience. Oftentimes in this work, the trauma of the betrayal comes to the surface, along with the pain. It is recommended you seek individual therapy or other healing professions to help support you through this time.
Throughout this process, you or your partner(s) may decide that the best option is to break up. This can be upsetting, and sometimes ending this form of the relationship is exactly what all parties need.
What are the steps to start therapy?
Kindly go to our intake page and fill out our form to have our intake coordinator reach out to you in 24-48 hours. If we’re accepting new clients, and are a good fit, we’ll schedule a call with all partners to learn more about what you are looking for in therapy and answer any questions you may have. From there, we’ll either set up an initial appointment or send you referrals to trusted colleagues and practices.