Anxiously Intimate Men’s Group
Interested in taking a deeper dive with other men in person?
Check out our upcoming three-day/two-night men’s* retreat at the Jikoji Zen Center April 19th-21st!
Join with other men who experience anxiety related to their sex lives, relationships and dating.
✔️ Have you found yourself getting stuck in your thoughts, unable to be present enough to enjoy sex with your partner(s)?
✔️ Has this led to avoiding sex or dating?
✔️ Do you find yourself worrying about your partner(s) accepting you?
✔️ Do you seek a queer, kink and poly friendly environment?
✔️ Do you want to practice expressing your emotions and vulnerabilities with others?
✔️ Do you want to feel less alone in your anxieties?
✔️ Are you ready to work against toxic pressures put on men?
When:
Tuesdays 9-10:20am (Online group)
Tuesdays 4-5:20 pm (Online group)
Tuesdays 5:30-6:50pm (Queer men’s in-person group)
Thursdays 11-12:20 pm (Queer men’s online group)
Thursdays 5:30-6:50 pm (Queer men’s online group)
Where:
Online through a secure HIPAA-compliant Zoom room
How much & what’s included?
✔️ Free 15-30 minute phone consult
✔️ Two 50 min assessment/intake sessions for $200 total, a $500 value
✔️ $90/group session, all sessions for the month are paid at the beginning of the month
✔️ Free copy of my sex and anxiety workbook “Sex Worriers”
✔️ Some sliding slots are available for those that can prove financial need
What's covered?
The group is designed to help men directly manage their anxiety with help from other group members’ insights, reflections, and personal experiences. There is no set schedule of topics or assignments, and direct advice is not a priority in the sessions. The focus of the sessions will range from participants taking time to share an experience and feel supported by others as well as larger group discussions on topics related to sex and anxiety.
Some topics can include:
✔️ What does “be a man” mean?
✔️ How anxiety impacts your relationships
✔️ Exploring queer identity & same gender attraction
✔️ Working against toxic masculinity and patriarchy
✔️ Practicing communicating needs and boundaries
✔️ Thoughts and feelings on porn and masturbation
✔️ Barriers to seeking support from other men
✔️ Consent: Hearing no and saying no
(If you’re looking for a more structured and goal-oriented program click here for updates)
Who’s Included
☑️ If you identify as a man or have been socialized as a man, while also experiencing anxiety around sex and dating
☑️ Ages 30 to 70
☑️ Currently living in California
☑️ Committed to weekly meetings to talk and listen openly
☑️ Able to encourage and support others
☑️ Desire to find ways to be more emotionally present with yourself and your partner(s)
☑️ Ready for change
☑️ LGBTQ+, Poly and Kink-affirming
☑️ Committed to working in an Anti-Racist environment
Limited to 10 participants.
Set up your free phone consultation so we can see if this is a good fit for you.
Fill out the form below. If you meet the criteria for the group, we will send you a scheduling link to select a time for a consult. If not, we will send you information on other groups and therapy resources.
Overcome sex anxiety at your own pace
Introducing Sex Worriers, a self-paced workbook for men’s anxiety to sex and relationships
Does anxiety prevent you from enjoying sex? This interactive workbook is for men who get stuck in their thoughts, and have difficulty being present enough to enjoy sex and dating. If you've become frozen when talking to a potential partner or during sex, this workbook may help you. Using mindfulness, dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) and queer theory, Sex Worries offers solutions for your anxiety.
Exercises include:
Grounding skills for anxiety
Learning how anxiety impacts you
Identifying what turns you and your partner on
Exercises to rebuild intimacy with your partner
Communication skills to listen and speak with your partner about sex
Interactive prompts to learn more about your relationship with sex and anxiety