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Reigniting Intimacy Through Roleplaying in Sex

I love all things Halloween. From decorating my home, to watching scary movies, to dressing up for parties and events. Around this time last year while I was doom scrolling through TikTok, I noticed there was fascination with people who dressed up as iconic masked movie villains who enticed their audience through various thirst traps scenarios. It was amusing to see all the different content this particular trend inspired but initially I did not find it especially stimulating. That was until videos of people dressed in the ghost face mask from the Scream franchise started popping up on my For You Page and I very quickly understood the appeal. After each video, I soon began to fantasize about a masked predator who had the power to harm me but instead brought me great pleasure and satisfaction with possibly a small dose a fear still included and I needed to try it out as soon as possible. 

A Big Ask

It was a nerve-racking experience to build up the courage to ask my partner to roleplay with me, especially since I was not sure he would feel comfortable doing. While my partner and I were overall happy with our sex life, at the time we were going through a rough patch where we both had a lot going on in our lives, leaving not much energy to dedicate to sex. I thought this idea could not only be fun, but also help us reconnect and bond over the new experience. When I expressed to him my new found obsession and asked if he felt comfortable coming up with a sexual scenario we could play out, he very nonchalantly answered, “Sure.” A huge weight was lifted off my shoulders and I eagerly waited to see what he would come up. 

The Climactic Moment

It took some time for the roleplay to happen, as I mentioned my partner and I were pretty busy for a while. Admittedly I started to worry that maybe my partner had doubts that wasn’t shared and didn’t want to go forward with the roleplay after all. However, after we arrived home from a dinner date celebrating our anniversary, I soon found myself face to face with a ghost faced predator luring me into our bedroom. While I won’t go into exact detail about what my partner planned out, I will say it was an incredible experience that replays in my mind at least a few times a week. Our roleplay scenario was consensual and desired, involving a vibrator, bondage, and knife play. We had previous experience with vibrators and bondage while experimenting with knife play which was something I previously expressed interest in. 

Final Thoughts

Roleplaying was something new for my partner and I. We had expressed different ideas in the past but hadn’t made the move to put any of the ideas in motion until now. My partner recently shared with me that he was really nervous about the roleplay. He worried that getting into the role of masked predator would be difficult and that it would turn into an unpleasant experience. I would have liked to have known that sooner so I could have helped ease his anxiety and reassured that we didn’t have to do anything he didn’t want to do but I trust that he would have confided in me if he felt more opposed. My partner exceeded any expectation I had and I feel confident in saying that this experience added a new layer of intimacy to our relationship.